I've always tried to grip the club 'in my fingers' but I've got small hands (footjoy size small gents glove) so a feeling of finger tip pressure is quite elusive.
What are your thoughts about smaller/thinner grips? Perhaps even ladies grips - I think Nicklaus used ladies grips in the early years. IIRC, Moe had jumbo-style grips, but may have had big hands, not sure.
Also, what are your thoughts on a 'reminder' ridge, either built into the grip, or added when fitting the grip (wire a la Hogan or similar)?